My husband and I always joked we
got married so I could have health insurance. (True story, the scariest 15 days
of my life is when I didn’t have my insurance, I would have bet someone that I
was going to end up in the hospital). It’s not true; we got married because we
were/are madly in love. We started dating when I was 17 and he was 18. We got
married five years later and have been insanely happy since
When I
told people that we were engaged and planning the wedding for the next summer
or fall, I got asked when I was due, or if the baby was going to be in the
wedding. (The ones who did the math) I would usually answer with a funny little
comment about not for at least five years (which I was pleasantly wrong about)
or not unless they are time travelers. We didn’t get married because I was
pregnant, rare I know for young marriages. We indeed got married because we
didn’t want to be apart. We did the long distance thing and it really wasn’t
for us. We already had limited together and we knew that we would eventually
get married. So why not get married now?
I have also been asked about all the “stuff” I missed in my
twenties. I haven’t missed anything, I have had the late night talks with “my
girls”, girlie weekends, staying out WAYYYYY to late with a few to many drinks.
(Not super proud of that one) I lived in the posh apartment that I could barely
afford right by downtown, fancy dinners, nice trips, I have had just the basics
in the fridge (or nothing at all), and “splurged” on going to get Chinese takeout.
Every rite of passage a twenty something should have I have dealt with, with
one exception. I had my best friend and partner with me. He was right by my
side the entire time, well other than when he was on a patrol. (For the non-sailors,
on a boat in the middle of the sea) I didn’t have to worry when I would get
married or if I would have children in my “prime years”.
I was lucky enough to find the love of my life in high
school, why would I want to wait to start my life with him? Everything that I have
and grown to be is because of him. He was right by my side in my happiest
moments of life, when we got married, the birth of my children, and moving to
Oregon. (Yes, I am insane and living here has been my dream since I can
remember) he has also been there through my saddest moments, a miscarriage, losing
people that I love, even the worst year of my life. I have also been with him,
in the hard moments. We have made it through everything that has been thrown at
us, and we are stronger, happier, and more in love than when we said “I do”.
Besides, I looked AMAZING that day!
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