I’m okay being old fashioned.

       I was raised in the South, where sweet tea is the wine of choice, a dinner party isn’t complete until you have a dessert “that you just whipped together”, its nearly a sin to show up empty handed, and family dinner isn’t a once a week occurrence; it happens every night the family is together. Everything is a little old fashioned in one way or another.

        Before I got married, I had a completely different view on this, I planned on sharing the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, everything! As soon as I got married I wanted to “play house”.  I started doting on The Hubs, cooking, cleaning, and going out of my way to make life easier for him. I will admit I got tired of doing everything around the house, but 99% of the time I was happy doing everything. It wasn’t until after Lime came that I truly wanted to be “old fashioned”

       I want to raise my children knowing the traditional man and female roles. (Not that a women can’t keep her family and have a career or that men have to “bring home the bacon” they will see this too) It’s what has worked for my family and The hubs’ family. We the women are happy staying home with the children, raising them, molding them, and making sure we are  sending out the best little person we can into this world. (Once both Kiddos are in school, I will be working again)

        In this little world for our family, The Hubs is treated like a king, dinners cooked, drinks “fetched” house cleaned (NEVER spotless, and usually a pile or two of laundry) and most nights a back rub. BUT here is the catch; I am treated like a queen! I am actually appreciated, and told this! All the work I do is not for nothing, I know that my family appreciates everything I do for them. The Hubs, brings me special treats nothing fancy, just little things that he thinks I would like, Vanilla cream sodas, chocolate, coffee! And my favorite, Mommy crack! (Just a soda but it helps you get through the day, even though I know I shouldn’t drink them) Even to some extent the kiddos get it, Lime will come up give me a hug and kiss and say thank you, which could also be just because he is a lover not a fighter and his favorite word/phrase is thank you (Yes he is two and has better manners than some adults that I know). Baby Girl, will give me a super sweet smile and one of her death grip hugs, (only 5 month old I know that could choke someone out!)

        I know this life isn’t for everyone and I am not trying to “set back” women’s rights (and this next statement will really get some blood boiling) but I think the women of the 50’s were doing something right. They took care of their men and children (and looked good doing it!). I want to be that wife, mother, chauffer, nurse, chief, teacher, maid, I think you get the idea, I want to be able to be there for my family, and right now I wouldn’t be able to do that if I wasn’t “old fashioned” and stayed home.